As much as women in Kenya have learned how to handle men, the men themselves also need to learn how to handle the increasing breed of independent Kenyan women. The dynamics of dating in Kenya have changed, and both men and women have to learn how to deal with one another.
It is perhaps better to define who an independent woman is. Such a woman has her own things going in that she has an income source, works hard to get whatever she wants, will stand by whatever she believes in, and will not be put down.
Independent Kenyan women have inner security that allows them to know that they deserve the best and do not need men to validate them.
However, just like other women, they need to be held, loved, and feel appreciated. The only difference is that they will not stick around when men treats them less than they feel they deserve. In short, they will take care of themselves. Independent women will not sleep their way up, will not depend on men for financial support, and will not breakdown at the first sign of failure or trouble.
Additionally, they will not extort money from rich men and most definitely not ask for money for nails, hair, spa, and holidays. The following are tips on how men supposed to deal with this new breed of women.
Paying Bills on Dates
Tradition dictates that on the first date, the man picks up the tab. However, independent Kenyan women are so used to taking care of their bills that they will automatically reach for the bill. Men should not take offense in that, and should instead just explain to the women that they got round this. Independent women do not feel they owe anything to anyone. Hence, assuring them that they can pay the bill on the next date will quickly placate them.
Have an Interesting Personality
Men who are not funny or interesting, and cannot hold an intelligent and interesting conversion should stop their pursuit of independent women. Holding conversions with them on how much money men have or how the man was wasted over the weekend will probably end up with them having a conversation with an empty seat. Stories involving wealth or class will not have any effect on a woman who is independent.
Calling an independent woman and telling them that one is outside their office or house without any prior arrangement can be quite annoying. This can only be acceptable if the man has dated the woman for a while, and even in such a case, once in a while.
Independent Kenyan women are in most parts of their lives busy and all over the place. Therefore, showing up unannounced will definitely mess up their plans. When planning a date, allow them to consult their calendar and diary. It is that serious, and for men who think that it’s over the top, they are just not ready to deal with such women.
It is not easy to put down independent Kenyan women. They have faced chauvinist men and women, gone through board meeting fights, and has been through a lot that has made them what they are today.
Therefore, attempting to patronize them will only put men to their place through a proper tongue lashing. When men start telling their friends how lousy the women’s cooking are, or how their laundry skills are below par, they better be looking for other women who can cook better or make their clothes sparkle themselves. Independent Kenyan women put a lot of effort to protect their ego, so men are advised to watch out.